What happened to you was something you could not prevent. You had no control over the painful experiences or the patterns that became deeply embedded in you. But what you can do is understand how these experiences influence your life today and how you can free yourself from them.

Take charge of your life – Reparenting your inner child and teenager

Your inner child is not an abstract concept, but a part of you – in fact, it is you at a certain point in your life. Although this brings playfulness, joy and wonder, it can also mean that this young part of you still influences your decisions. When your inner child or teenager is in the driver's seat, it can lead to patterns that hold you back: fear, anger, jealousy, or even destructive tendencies such as addictions and self-sabotage.

Many of our automatic reactions stem from these younger parts of ourselves. Perhaps you notice that you repeatedly fall back into the same emotional patterns, that your relationships are more complicated than necessary, or that you feel stuck without really understanding why.

Awareness is the key. As soon as you recognise when your inner child is in the driving seat, you can make a conscious choice. You can learn to carry yourself with a mature presence instead of reacting from old pain or survival mechanisms.

You don't have to go back to old pain endlessly to experience true liberation. What is essential, however, is that you learn to recognise, break through and change your survival mechanisms and patterns. If you do not, there is a good chance that one of these wounded parts of you—your inner child or teenager—still guides the decisions in your life, instead of your adult self.

Many people do not even realise this and only wonder why they keep ending up in the same situations.

But the reality is simple:

• A child or teenager cannot make adult choices.
• A child or teenager does not recognise danger.
• A child or teenager acts out of pain, not out of wisdom.

This means that as long as these parts of you are unconsciously in the foreground, you will end up in unhealthy situations time and again. They can drag you into destructive relationships, make you ignore your boundaries and make you cling to people who break you—all because they hope to find the love and security they lacked in the past.

But that safety is not out there, it is something you must create within yourself.

Learn the difference between your inner child and your adult self.

In this work, we explore not only the vulnerabilities of your inner child and teenager, but also their strengths. You develop skills to build a bridge between these parts and your adult self, so that you are no longer unconsciously guided by old emotions, but consciously choose how you react and live. This brings more balance, peace and clarity to your daily life - and opens the door to joy, playfulness and authentic connections.

Why many people think they have already healed their inner child (but their patterns and survival mechanisms remain unchanged)

Many people think they have already healed their inner child or teenager, but have not actually changed their patterns and survival mechanisms. They have done inner work—some have written a letter to their inner child, attended a workshop, read books, done meditations, and maybe even used plant medicine. And while this can be valuable and provide insights, the real work lies elsewhere.

True transformation does not mean that you have ‘touched’ it once.

It means that you:

• Recognise in your daily life when an old part of you - your inner child or teenager - takes the lead.
• Are not only aware of your wounds, but also actually learn to break through your automatic reactions.
• Learning to control and regulate yourself when old patterns are triggered, without being sucked into them.
• Moving from insight and awareness to actual embodiment—so that it does not remain a ‘concept’, but becomes your natural way of life.

Coming home to yourself is not only understanding where your pain comes from, but also feeling deep down that you are no longer stuck in old dynamics. That you no longer look outside yourself for security, confirmation, love and fulfilment, but learn to find these within yourself. That you know: I am here, I am safe, I am loved, and I am at home in myself.

True healing is about fully embracing and accepting all parts of yourself—including the parts that hurt, are angry, feel rejected or are afraid. Not to dwell in those emotions, but to recognise them, feel them and ultimately integrate them into who you are today.

And that is where most people get stuck.

They understand it on a mental level, but it still lives in their body, in their reactions, in their patterns.

And yet you probably keep getting stuck. Yet the same patterns keep repeating themselves. Yet you probably still feel insecure in your relationships and choices. This is because inner child and teenage work is not a one-off exercise. It is not a quick fix. It is not a matter of ‘just connecting and you're done’.

True transformation means that you:

• Learn to recognise your inner child and teenager when they take over your life.
• Understand the triggers that cause these parts to emerge.
• Do not automatically go along with the emotion and panic of that old part, but remain present as an adult.
• Create safety and stability within yourself, so that you are no longer dependent on external approval or confirmation.

And that takes time. That takes consistency. That takes courage.

Not a Quick Fix Workshop, but a Deep Process

Many people think that inner work is a quick fix—something you can complete in a few days or weeks. But that is not how profound transformation works. This is not a quick workshop or a short-term exercise. It is a step-by-step process in which you relearn to live from your adult self—not from a child who is afraid or a rebellious teenager who shoots off in all directions.

I carefully guide my clients through this process, usually over a period of about three months.

This allows you to:

✔️ Recognise and break through your survival mechanisms.

✔️ Understand your triggers and no longer be dragged along by them.

✔️ Take charge of your life step by step from the here and now.

✔️ No longer be guided by fear, but by awareness.

Then you can take the next steps—from a place of inner strength, without the chaos of old patterns holding you back.

Inner Work Is Not A Permanent Struggle—But It Does Have A Start-Up Phase

Many people think that inner work means that you must always be in deep self-reflection. That is not true. What is true, however, is that there is a phase in which you must consciously learn to recognise when an old part of you is in control.

If you don't realise this, you are living on autopilot. Your choices are then driven by old pain, not by your mature self.

This is difficult at first. Why? Because you have been walking around with limiting beliefs, patterns and fears that now seem so much a part of you.

But as you become more aware, it becomes easier:

• You notice more quickly when an old part is triggered.
• You are no longer completely overcome by emotions.
• You know: this is an old feeling, not my current reality.

And at a certain point, a tipping point is reached:

• Where you no longer have to fight.
• Where you can calmly observe: ‘Oh, I have been triggered by an old belief. Maybe I went a bit too far, and that's okay. It doesn't mean I'm back to square one, but that I have a chance to approach this in a new way now."
• Where you are no longer led by the pain, but by the mature you who can see clearly.

Only then are you free.

You Can Do This Too

You don't have to dwell on old pain.

You don't have to keep searching endlessly for love outside of yourself.

You don't have to keep falling back into patterns that break you.

The key lies within you. The only question is: do you dare to pick it up?

Your inner child and teenager need you. Not to dwell in the past, but to receive the security and love they have always missed NOW.

And you can only give that to yourself.

I know how it feels to go through this. I know how difficult it is in the beginning, but also how liberating it is once you see it through.

And believe me, you are so much stronger than you think.

Freedom is closer than you think.

You are special. You are powerful. And I am sure that somewhere inside you is the courage to face this.